35 years
Salut, mon fils de 5 ans souffre de jalousie de sa petite soeur et la tape bcp et il fait une regression a l'ecole. dois je consulter une psycologue ou une psychomotrienne?
Aug 3, 2014
It can be very frustrating when your firstborn child starts showing jealousy behavior toward a newborn sibling. Oftentimes you are already giving your elder child all the care, even more than before your new child was born, yet this still doesn't cut it. Psychological studies revealed that "1st children often feel a sense of dethronement from their position of parental favor when another child is born into the family".
How to deal with it?
*Start with prevention (for a future pregnancy maybe):
-Prepare your child by announcing a baby brother or sister is coming to lessen the surprise effect,&talk about babies, showing babies around you or in books or on TV. Discuss what babies are like, and how nice it is to have a brother or sister.
-Allow your firstborn to participate in preparations for the baby to foster a sense of relationship -- emotional attachment and a sense of belonging.
-Adjust your firstborn's schedule ahead of time, so he/she won't associate those changes with emotional displacement because of the arrival of the new baby.
-Allow your firstborn to visit the baby in the hospital then choose clothes for the baby's trip home, this helps establish the sibling relationship.
*Adjustment
-Regression, temper tantrums or clinging behavior are expected and usual reactions especially during the first few weeks.
-Always encourage him, and praise his latest achievements (like knowing how to tie his shoes on his own). This will give him a sense of privilege. You could also have him help you with simple household chores or playing games with him to make him feel more special.
-In case of temper tantrums, ignore him, these are meant to manipulate you or to get your attention. As such, you teach him that negative behavior cannot be rewarded & is not an effective way of communication and it won't get him what he wants.
Consulting a child psychologist is a good idea to get more advice especially if all the above mentioned measures don't produce improvement.
How to deal with it?
*Start with prevention (for a future pregnancy maybe):
-Prepare your child by announcing a baby brother or sister is coming to lessen the surprise effect,&talk about babies, showing babies around you or in books or on TV. Discuss what babies are like, and how nice it is to have a brother or sister.
-Allow your firstborn to participate in preparations for the baby to foster a sense of relationship -- emotional attachment and a sense of belonging.
-Adjust your firstborn's schedule ahead of time, so he/she won't associate those changes with emotional displacement because of the arrival of the new baby.
-Allow your firstborn to visit the baby in the hospital then choose clothes for the baby's trip home, this helps establish the sibling relationship.
*Adjustment
-Regression, temper tantrums or clinging behavior are expected and usual reactions especially during the first few weeks.
-Always encourage him, and praise his latest achievements (like knowing how to tie his shoes on his own). This will give him a sense of privilege. You could also have him help you with simple household chores or playing games with him to make him feel more special.
-In case of temper tantrums, ignore him, these are meant to manipulate you or to get your attention. As such, you teach him that negative behavior cannot be rewarded & is not an effective way of communication and it won't get him what he wants.
Consulting a child psychologist is a good idea to get more advice especially if all the above mentioned measures don't produce improvement.
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if the condition is annoying and clearly he is jealous and starts to harm others and his jealousy is beginning to affect him and others yes it is very advisable to check with a psychologist he can guide you as parents how to deal with him and how to act towards his bad behavior and treat him
si la condition est ennuyeux et il est clair qu'il est jaloux et commence à nuire à autrui et sa jalousie commence à lui et d'autres affecter oui il est très recommandé de vérifier avec un psychologue, il peut vous guider en tant que parents la façon de traiter avec lui et comment agir vers son mauvais comportement et de le traiter
si la condition est ennuyeux et il est clair qu'il est jaloux et commence à nuire à autrui et sa jalousie commence à lui et d'autres affecter oui il est très recommandé de vérifier avec un psychologue, il peut vous guider en tant que parents la façon de traiter avec lui et comment agir vers son mauvais comportement et de le traiter
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