17 years
Can I change my sensitive personality? Please guide me..
Dec 25, 2013
Being sensitive is normal and essential in human being but being over sensetive will make certain negative effects on you life and , it may be hampering your ability to live a full and happy life, to be more connected to others and to express yourself better,it can be difficult for you to manage and change because you may feel vulnerable, defensive, threatened or you may not know what to do to become less sensitive.
Being overly sensitive is not, in itself, a bad trait but it is likely to lead you to assume slights that you imagined, or are not intentional. You will be easily hurt by comments and actions that are 'normal', that most people do not find hurtful. Misinterpreting constructive, everyday interactions can limit your ability to lead a happier life.
you can balance your sensitivity with common sense, confidence and resilience so that you do not over-react to life's everyday events.
It might help to understand that this first step usually is the hardest, as it is possible to spend many hours of conflicted self-talk and contemplation before you can really admit that you could be too sensitive for your own well-being. This includes going over the whats, hows and whys. Generally, there are not many people who are really able to honestly look inside themselves and admit to the truth of what they see is happening, so you probably find this step is a big challenge. Set yourself some ground rules as that way you have a scope within to explore and can still be in control
Perhaps you're very sensitive to a particular person or group of people? Does the depth of your usual sensitivity vary? Do you react in a big way or a small way to things you perceive as hurts or emotional harm? Try to explore all the subtle details of what or who sets off your sensitivities.
After a certain action that happened infront of you and you act sensitive or over sensitive ,try to sit by yourself and discover what is the word or words that make you react like this ,or how you have to act in similar situations if repeated ,judge yourself .
you can also ask also a near person that you trust how they will act to a certain situation or you can watch their reactions and compare it by yourself
when you feel and know your triggers of sensetivity ,you can handle them by stopping your mind from thinking about these triggers when happen another time think in different things at that time as if you are pausing certain words or actions happening around you or as if you are seeing a film and using the remote control to pause or forward actions or scenes you don't like .
Writing down your sensitivity triggers in a journal can be helpful as this allows you to transfer the abstract thoughts about your alleged sensitivities and turn them into concrete words upon paper. Sometimes just in the doing of this, you can begin to see the idea of the sensitivity changing and being replaced by a more realistic view of the trigger or situation.
once you have identified the how, what, why, when and how of your sensitivity, can you start to train the mind. Go over the exploration and the trigger finding outlined in the previous steps as many times as needed until you feel comfortable that you've grasped a better understanding of your own sensitivities, their source and their impact on your daily life.
Challenge yourself ,everytime you overcome a sensitive situation mark a tick on your diary when you fail also mark this will make the sensitive point in you to turn from involuntary to voluntary action to overcome .
Try always not to drag yourself in a big problems that carry more issues on your sensitivity ,if you feel a situation will develop to bigger problem ,stop arguing and change your place .
Be patient ,it is a matter of balance and it may take time .if you thimk your sensitivity is something you can't come over check with a psychiatric .
Being overly sensitive is not, in itself, a bad trait but it is likely to lead you to assume slights that you imagined, or are not intentional. You will be easily hurt by comments and actions that are 'normal', that most people do not find hurtful. Misinterpreting constructive, everyday interactions can limit your ability to lead a happier life.
you can balance your sensitivity with common sense, confidence and resilience so that you do not over-react to life's everyday events.
It might help to understand that this first step usually is the hardest, as it is possible to spend many hours of conflicted self-talk and contemplation before you can really admit that you could be too sensitive for your own well-being. This includes going over the whats, hows and whys. Generally, there are not many people who are really able to honestly look inside themselves and admit to the truth of what they see is happening, so you probably find this step is a big challenge. Set yourself some ground rules as that way you have a scope within to explore and can still be in control
Perhaps you're very sensitive to a particular person or group of people? Does the depth of your usual sensitivity vary? Do you react in a big way or a small way to things you perceive as hurts or emotional harm? Try to explore all the subtle details of what or who sets off your sensitivities.
After a certain action that happened infront of you and you act sensitive or over sensitive ,try to sit by yourself and discover what is the word or words that make you react like this ,or how you have to act in similar situations if repeated ,judge yourself .
you can also ask also a near person that you trust how they will act to a certain situation or you can watch their reactions and compare it by yourself
when you feel and know your triggers of sensetivity ,you can handle them by stopping your mind from thinking about these triggers when happen another time think in different things at that time as if you are pausing certain words or actions happening around you or as if you are seeing a film and using the remote control to pause or forward actions or scenes you don't like .
Writing down your sensitivity triggers in a journal can be helpful as this allows you to transfer the abstract thoughts about your alleged sensitivities and turn them into concrete words upon paper. Sometimes just in the doing of this, you can begin to see the idea of the sensitivity changing and being replaced by a more realistic view of the trigger or situation.
once you have identified the how, what, why, when and how of your sensitivity, can you start to train the mind. Go over the exploration and the trigger finding outlined in the previous steps as many times as needed until you feel comfortable that you've grasped a better understanding of your own sensitivities, their source and their impact on your daily life.
Challenge yourself ,everytime you overcome a sensitive situation mark a tick on your diary when you fail also mark this will make the sensitive point in you to turn from involuntary to voluntary action to overcome .
Try always not to drag yourself in a big problems that carry more issues on your sensitivity ,if you feel a situation will develop to bigger problem ,stop arguing and change your place .
Be patient ,it is a matter of balance and it may take time .if you thimk your sensitivity is something you can't come over check with a psychiatric .
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